1/6/10: Truth hurts

I found out the truth about myself yesterday, and it hurt. The worst part is, I told myself the truth. I realized I have the tendency to exaggerate pain, for example if someone says "oh Love, shut up" depending on my mood my mind will magnify that to "Love shut the H@#$ UP! You are always talking! ooh I cant stand you!" and then I wonder why I get my feelings hurt so quickly. I decided today to try to see things at face value. So the next time someone does something to me, its just that, something. It doesn’t change who they are or their relationship with me, they simply did something. I don’t know if you understand what I am saying and whether or not it applies to you but I hope you take time out to tell yourself the truth once in a while.

I find the best time to do a self check is during traffic. There is nothing like sitting in a car for 90 minutes, turning the radio off and just meditating. You find a lot about yourself that way. No one is perfect, so when you find out all your many flaws, please don’t be overwhelmed or depressed, take it one issue at a time. For example, there is more to my “truths” I found about myself than just exaggerating pain, but I have anger issues too and several others but I will work on this first because I know that if I can stop thinking the worse of people and what they really mean when they offend me, I can suppress and manage my anger better.

I am in a happy place today, made a very important decision in my life today and I pray it’s the right one. One thing I am sure of though, God’s grace is sufficient for me!!!!
His grace can help you through your “truths too”

That’s all for today guys, I’m sleepy!!!

Proverbs 3:34
"God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble"

1/4/11 - My child's future ... what does it hold?

Clearly,

I am not the best at this blogger thing seeing as my last entry was 3 days ago, but better late than never right?

My topic for today is something that I am really passionate about: Children, but, in particular the education system and our children.

I am not in the education field so I am not here to judge the teachers or principals, but I just want to vent about what our children are lacking. Our children are lacking education. Think about it, nowadays you cannot even sit down and tutor your child basic math. I had a math minor in college and since my sister entered the 5^th grade I stopped helping her with her math homework because there is a “new way” to multiply, there is a “new way” to add, and there is “short cut” to this and a “short cut” to that. It is insane. The educational system is teaching our children how to memorize and not learn. I can’t really say I learned that much in high school but I do know there are some things I still remember because of how the teachers taught them. Now the teachers have to spend half their time preparing the children for standardized tests. There are the CRCT’s in elementary school, then the high school tests in high schools, then of course the SAT, none of which are geared towards testing the children on what they actually learn in class. We are confusing our children and we don’t know why.

I was out having dinner with my girls and we started talking about this and one of my friends, a teacher, mentioned that there are students in her  12 grade class that do not know how to read. We all concluded after that conversation that we were afraid to have children. There is no doubt in my mind that 12 years from now our children will be dummies, literally and it’s frightening.  We are depending so much on computers and standardized tests and that’s bothers me.  My  11 year old sister  has her text book online and all her assignment are sent to her online, all in an effort to “save money” yet we still waste resources having classes like “dance” and “fashion marketing”.   Now we have children who at the age of 9 need computers to do their homework or project because now, every research project is done searching on Google. What happened to the good ole library and using books to find answers? And we really wonder why we have doctors and engineers who are willing to “cut corners” and kill patients and collapse bridges.   We have children who grow up “googling” everything that when they get to college  they don’t learn, all the papers are written using cliff notes and dog-pile and so on and so forth.  It’s a shame. Children do not learn any more…….. They memorize and “B.S”.  Teachers are so busy at their 6 meetings a week which they are forced to attend that they don’t have the energy to grade papers the way they should because it has become their responsibility, NOT THAT OF THE STUDENT NOR THE PARENT,  to help these children pass their standardized tests, and oh yea learn basic math and sciences.

I don’t know what will happen years from now and I don’t know how to help the school system but I want to try. I want to give my children a shot at learning. I don’t want my children’s teachers to lose their jobs because they were forced to change answers on my child’s standardized test to make the school look good.  We have heard so many teachers getting fired for “snapping” on students and breaking all kinds of rules and although I don’t condone their behavior, but I can understand. When you have a principal asking you “what are you doing to help this child pass” and  a parent asking “why is my child not passing” and a child telling you “I didn’t feel like doing my homework.” What do you do? When your job security is depending on a child with absolutely no willingness to learn and a parent who just doesn’t seem to care? What do you do?

Parents, I know it’s hard to work and do other things in your life, but it’s the responsibility of the teacher to explain the text books and other course material, but its YOUR responsibility to make sure your child is willing to learn. It takes less than 1 hr to go over your children’s homework.  Just like getting to work early, your child’s future should be a priority too.

What can I do to help the educational system in my county? In my state? In this country?

Prov. 4:7 - "Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding."

Prov. 2:3-5 - "Call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, and if you look for it as for silver
and search for it as for hidden treasure, then you will understand the fear of the LORD and find the
knowledge of God."

1/1/11

Hi My name is Love ...ok Just kidding, I will introduce myself later ...
Its a brand new year and I am sooooo excited about the things that are in store for me this year!!!

So I start off with a blog :)

I am dedicating this blog to my friends.
They inspired me to write this blog, and I promised my bestie, during NYE service that I will start writing today. They are the best friends a girl could ever have. After today I might introduce you all to them, with thier permission.

This is my first time doing this. I have never even written a "note" on facebook. I actually have a lot to say, about everything and as time passes I hope you enjoy reading my blog, and please feel free to input.

First thing is first... I am getting married in exactly 16 Weeks!!!! wooohoooo!!!! Yup my beau and I have been together for 4.5 years. We met on our college campus and have been inseperable since.

Now this wedding is not like any other...well maybe like some others.. in the sense that it is ordained only by God  and will defintiely happen only by the GRACE of God... hence the name of my blog.

LOVE IS...by Love I am referring to God's love!
I will tell you more bout God's love another time seeing as  I have some wedding planning to do :)

Happy New Year

Ephesians 1:5